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Protect inheritance from son-in-law and daughter-in-law so that it goes to your kids and grandkids

- Protect inheritance from your son-in-law and your daughter-in-law. You might be surprised to hear that probably one of the top five questions we get when people come into our office is how do I keep my son-in-law or my daughter-in-law out of my estate?

Now, it's not necessarily because my clients do not like their son-in-law or their daughter-in-law, which is entirely possible. It could be just that they're afraid that once they get a lump sum of the money that you have worked have worked your entire life to accumulate, that they are gonna blow it on something frivolous as soon as they receive it.

It's extra money, right? But I think one of the main reasons that people want to keep their son-in-law or their daughter-in-law out of their estate is because, one, they want to protect their children and, two, they want to protect their grandchildren.

Now, some clients have said as long as my son or my daughter keeps their inheritance completely separate from their spouse, then it should remain their separate property. The key word there is it should remain their separately property, but there are so many different scenarios where that money can be co-mingled and unfortunately make it a part of the marital estate.

In other words, once it's co-mingled, that son or daughter-in-law could have access to it. How do we fix this problem? Well, there are a few ways. One of them we just talked about, and that is making sure that your son or your daughter is completely steadfast in making certain that their inheritance is always kept 100% separate from their spouse.

But you always run the risk of that money getting co-mingled, so you need to plan carefully when you decide to go that route. You need to have a really tough conversation with your son or daughter.

Another way to do this is to create a revocable living trust in which you name a third party to be the trustee after you pass away and then you can still name your son or daughter as a beneficiary, but maybe they only get a little bit of money every so-many years, so that the spouse does not have access to all of that money at once, especially if there is a divorce.

And then if your son or daughter passes away, the remaining balance of that inheritance goes to your grandchildren. That also brings up another way to work around the problem and that is to, again, name a third party as a trustee and name your son or daughter as the beneficiary, but they only get the income from the trust during their lifetime and then when they pass away, your grandchildren receive the remaining assets in the trust, which I think is the goal of most people once they have grandchildren.

Well, that's all for today. If you liked this video, can you do me a huge favor and click on the like button below? I would really appreciate it. And if you have any other questions, then please check out some of our other videos here on our channel or click on the link below, where you can download our Deficiencies Check Up Guide that will give you an idea of exactly where you are in your estate planning.

Have a great day and, as always, have an awesome week! Thanks for watching. We'll see you next time.

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- Protege la herencia de tu yerno y de tu nuera. Puedes sorprenderte de escuchar que probablemente una de las cinco preguntas que nos hacen cuando la gente viene a nuestra oficina es ¿cómo mantengo a mi yerno o a mi nuera fuera de mi herencia? Bien, no es necesariamente porque a mis clientes no les gustan sus yernos o sus nueras, lo que es completamente posible.

Puede ser que están asustados que una vez que obtienen un pago total del dinero por el que han trabajado la vida entera en acumular, se lo van a gastar en algo frívolo no bien lo reciban. Es dinero extra, ¿verdad?

Pero creo que una de las principales razones por la que las personas quieren mantener a su yerno o su nuera fuera de la herencia es porque, uno, quieren proteger a sus hijos y, dos, quieren proteger a sus nietos. Bien, algunos clientes han dicho que mientras mi hijo o mi hija mantenga su herencia completamente separada de su cónyuge, debería quedar su propiedad separada.

La palabra clave aquí es debería quedar su propiedad separada, pero hay tantos escenarios diferentes donde el dinero puede compartido y desafortunadamente ser una parte de la herencia marital. En otras palabras, una vez que es compartido, el yerno o la nuera pueden tener acceso a él. ¿Cómo solucionamos este problema? Bueno, hay algunas formas. Una de ellas es la que hablamos, y es asegurarte que tu hijo o tu hija está completamente firme en asegurarse que la herencia se va a mantener 100% separada de su cónyuge.

Pero siempre corres el riesgo de que ese dinero sea compartido, así que necesitas planificar cuidadosamente cuando decidas ir por ese camino. Necesitas tener una conversación difícil con tu hijo o hija. Otra forma de hacer esto es crear un fondo revocable en vida por el cual nombras una tercera como administrador luego de que falleces y luego puedes nombrar a tu hijo o hija como beneficiario, pero quizás solo reciban un poco de dinero cada algunos años así el cónyuge no tiene acceso a todo el dinero de una vez, especialmente si hay un divorcio.

Y luego, si tu hijo o hija fallecen, el saldo pendiente de esa herencia va a tus nietos. Esto lleva a otra forma de trabajar el problema y es que, de nuevo, nombrar a un tercero como administrador y nombrar a tu hijo o hija como el beneficiario pero sólo obtienen el ingreso del fideicomiso durante su vida y cuando fallecen, sus nietos reciben los bienes que quedan en el fideicomiso, lo que creo que es el objetivo de la mayoría de las personas una vez que tienen nietos.

Bueno, eso es todo por hoy. Si les gustó este video, pueden hacerme un gran favor y hacer un clic en el botón de abajo. Realmente lo agradecería. Y si tienen otras preguntas, por favor revisen algunos de nuestros videos aquí en nuestro canal o hagan un clic en el link de abajo, donde pueden bajar nuestra Guía de Revisión de Deficiencias que les dará una idea de exactamente donde estás en la planificación de su herencia.

Que tengan un buen día, y como siempre, una excelente semana Gracias por mirar. Nos vemos la próxima.

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